Want an AWESOME Holiday Season?
Holidays of 2020… Here they come. Oh Boy!! We made it through Thanksgiving. So, why not Christmas and New Year’s. This time of year can be so hectic with all the buying, wrapping, baking, cooking, Christmas cards, and family…we can really get lost in the hustle and bustle of it all and miss the whole thing! We miss the precious moments that can happen when we are present and paying attention.
I was working with a client the other day and she was telling me about her love/hate relationship with the holidays. She said, “I really want to love the holidays. I know I am supposed to love the holidays, but I just get so exhausted with all the other stuff. I end up yelling at my family, getting frustrated with the shopping, not enjoying the cooking and baking at all. I usually just can’t wait for the holidays to be OVER! I don’t want it to be like that this year, but I don’t know what to do about it.”
Make a Declaration to Have an AWESOME Holiday Season!
So, I said to her… What if…this holiday season you make a declaration to have an awesome holiday season?? I am not talking about amazing to other people or in other people’s eyes…amazing to yourself and to your loved ones! What if … you honor, cherish, and enjoy yourself and your family (as much as you can – I know there is some dysfunction out there…but that is another blog).
Of course, she asked me, “How do I do that?” Since this is something that I coach on and that I have struggled with myself in the past. I said, “Do it through self-care!
5 Ways Self-Care Can Lead to AWESOME Holidays
First, make a vow to take care of yourself this holiday season. Take care of yourself so that you can be there for the people who need you most! Take care of yourself so you can be present at all the precious moments. Take care of yourself so you can participate and make the best memories EVER!!
Second, say “no” to anything that’s not absolutely necessary. When the school calls and says they need you to ____________. The answer is “no”. When your cousin calls and asks you to ________ at the last minute…the answer is “no”. Unless it easily fits into your schedule and you can appropriately plan for it…the answer is “no”. You have enough on your plate just with the normal stuff we do through the holidays…say “no” to extra stuff!!
Third, check-in with yourself throughout the holiday and see how you are doing! Ask yourself, “Am I hungry?” Then, eat something (a healthy something!). If you are tired, take a nap…give yourself permission to get a little extra shut-eye. If you are feeling any kinda way…address it!! Ask yourself, “What do I need right now in this moment?” Give yourself permission to take care of yourself.
Fourth, schedule time for yourself. Put yourself on the calendar. You need to destress during the holidays. So, take an Epsom salt bath, go golfing, go for a walk, practice meditation etc. Do whatever you need to do to destress. This will make a world of difference as you go out to do the shopping, stay in to do the wrapping, cooking, and baking. You will have a ton more patience, tolerance, and neurons to handle all the extra stuff of the holidays!!
Fifth, remember what the holiday is all about. No matter what your religion, we all know that the season is all about compassion, kindness, goodwill toward woman and man, love, gratitude, giving and togetherness, etc. When you are feeling frazzled…remember this!
You can make a gratitude list, you can donate some money to a charity, you can pick up the phone and call someone you haven’t spoken to in a while. You can send a card to someone you haven’t in a while. (Find them on FB send them an e-card – reconnect.) Focus on your family, feel that love in your heart for your children, parents, etc. (again with the dysfunction…find someone to focus on the love in your heart…maybe it is your dog or cat?).
Commit to Having an AWESOME Holiday Season!
If you commit and do these things this holiday season, can have an AWESOME holiday season. Practice some self-care while you go through this crazy holiday season and you will be so happy you did! Be intentional this holiday season and don’t get run over by the steam roller that is the holiday season. You can do it!
Share This AWESOME!!
Do you know someone who always overdoes it during the holidays? Do you think this blog post might help them? Please, feel free to share this with them. It might warm their heart to know you are thinking of them!!